Thursday, February 10, 2011

The Worst

Maybe this will embarrass me even more to post, but oh well.

Today a client at work asked if I was "expecting", right in front of two co-workers. I obviously told her no, but I always think of better things to say after the fact!

I really don't understand why she asked me that. I mean, I know I have a belly and maybe some people could mistake that for a bump. BUT, this woman has seen me at the clinic for years, and I have lost weight in that time period! I could understand if I had once been skinny and now I am not, but I am smaller than I used to be! This lady is a talker though, so of all people, it doesn't surprise me that she would ask.

I wish everyone would abide by the general rule to never ask a woman if she is pregnant. Even if you think she is 9 months along.

I wish in the moment I could reply with something like this "Yes, I am expecting to have a baby one day, but as of right now my husband and I have been trying for over 3 years to get pregnant and we are still waiting for that miracle. And, yes, I am expecting to loose weight so I can get rid of this belly so people like you don't embarrass me anymore. But, I do have PCOS which makes it really easy to gain weight in the belly, and really difficult to loose it. Thanks for asking."

But I always get so flustered and I have to fight back tears, so I never get the chance for a clever response.
Maybe I should just get this shirt in several different colors and wear it everyday....


Anonymous said...

i like your second come back. i hate not knowing what to say in the moment and come up with great comments later on...i guess sometimes it is a good thing that my mind goes blank cause otherwise i would probably be fired for the things i want to say to customers. :) and my co-worker and i were just talking about it today that you never never never ask a lady if she is pregnant. i am sorry you had to experience this today.

Brittney said...

So rude!! People should never make assumptions like that. And just for the record I don't think you look the least bit pregnant. I'm sorry you had to have that experience. I hope tomorrow's better for you. ((HUGS))

Jobina said...

I have promised myself that I will never, ever ask a woman if she is pregnant. I'm also trying hard to never hint to people that they "should" have kids. It's just rude and I have no idea what they are going through or if they even want to have kids or not. It's just none of my business.
I'm so sorry that you had to hear that from someone, you are a beautiful person!

Kelsey Loewen said...

That sucks. I'm sorry you had to experience that.

Lindsey Dueck said...

Thanks ladies! You are too sweet!

Melissa said...

aww Lindsey. Your story makes me want to cry. I am sorry that you had to experience that.

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